The Grandmothers Tell Us
by: Pamela Waterbird Davison
Copyright 2008
The Grandmothers tell us we must teach and show the next generation the way. They tell us time is running out and we must make the way clear so it won’t be lost. What a daunting task we have before us. What an incredible choice we are faced with. We can either heed the words of the Grandmothers or we can choose to head into our eldership unaware. For me the answer is easy, but the way is not.
Walking in two different worlds is a terrific challenge. One foot carries on in the modern ways of life. We wear mainstream clothes, work mainstream jobs, and pay mainstream bills. We keep up with politics, go to war for our country, and try to keep up with what modern society expects of us.
The other foot carries on in the old ways of our ancestors. We remember who they were, what they wore, what they had to endure. We understand why they fought for sovereignty against illegal aliens. We know how important it is that they, the ones who came before us, cannot be forgotten.
For many of us assimilation is almost complete. Our children don’t know the language and traditions we honor. They don’t know why their sixth-great-grandparent was moved to Oklahoma and given a number. They don’t seem to care. All they know is what the world is today and what it means to them.
For some of us only the traditional ways will do, no matter what the cost. Still, these are the same ones who find they struggle to define who they are, where they came from, and what they stand for.
Others of us struggle against assimilation, demanding that we remember why we wore feathers in our hair (if we did), what stories were told and what they taught, and the songs (both old and new) while all the time remembering we live in this world today…with all its terrible beauty.
The latter is the path I have chosen. Sometimes the effort seems pointless, especially when the youth are so entrenched in this “modern world”…yet the ancestors’ burn in my veins insisting that I don’t let them go. So the greater test becomes balance between the two worlds. Learning to reach out in a way of communication which forms a bridge between those worlds takes great energy and dedication. It gets very tiring.
But the Grandmothers tell us we must teach and show the next generation the way. They tell us time is running out and we must make the way clear so it won’t be lost. For me the choice is easy, but the way is not. I find it a worthy thing to stand for.